It's Been Awhile... But It's Good To See That We're Still Here

Like the title of this blog post it has definitely been a long time since i have posted i took about a year hiatus from writing this blog and well i would have to apologize for this to my loyal followers or probably no longer loyal followers. I have noticed just recently i had my most all time views of this blog last month this past december so its good to know i still have people viewing what i write. Thank You.

Since i wrote last lots has happened High school is over and second year of college is now half over. I have decided to perhaps come back to doing this if time allows in my busy schedule. I have learned so much in the last year and a bit. much to write about i guess. But this is just an update from a lost voice Mr. Nice Guy. I have a lot of new topics to discuss and like before they are only suggestions or even merely my way of understanding things i experience and witness. I still have the absolutely amazing girlfriend that i have built a rock solid relationship with over the past three years from high school into college. So what i'm saying is she has helped me more than i know most days and i see it more and more. She has not only changed my life for the better but impacted my life and changed my viewpoints for i think the better. So just when you think all Nice Guys are 100% Nice they may not always be i admit it we aren't we make mistakes like everyone does but we recognize it late, but we do, better late then never right?

Still i believe a Nice Guy can still remain a Nice Guy despite his slip ups. I slip up but you know what as long as you have that significant other that means so very much to you she will forgive you and no your still good at heart.

This was just an update and i'll try to return to writing these. Stay strong and keep the faith we still exist.

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

Let The Good Times Roll!!!

So My fellow readers it is Sunday today and well i kinda missed a blog yesterday and for this i apologize, but for good reason i was out of town therefore away from my computer so i am sorry if i have let down any of my devoted followers and readers but things happen! Like my buddy Teen Theory said in his last blog time (link to his blog in the sidebar thinger) is short so you gotta enjoy it while you can and well that's what i did yesterday! But like i said on Fridays hopefully i get back around to making it right with you guys/girls by Sunday and well I'm here!!!!

So today's blog is about time in a way! See i have referred to relationships not being a race and especially not being a race against time either but like others believe and agree with time does move so fast and especially with the person you love most! So last time i may have talked about taking your time and good things come to those who wait and its truth! However getting yourself in that position is what takes the time and building the relationship may take time but believe me its worth it!! Its the maintaining, the enjoying part of the relationship is where you have the time of your life!

We may not all have the what i like to call "Feature Film Love Story" or the love stories you see in the movies but who's to say your individual relationship cannot be the best story you have ever see and/or told!!

So for all the guys out there Nice guys or Typical listen to this as i say it!! Be good to your women and they will be good to you! If you already have her then you have already done all the right things so don't stop now!!!!! Take her places the reason she likes to put on make up and dresses pretty is because she likes to be noticed... she likes to be seen!!! So take her places!! She's not a possession of yours remember however she will appreciate that you are proud and honored to be by her side and i am sure she feels the same for you too!!

Enjoy every moment with her (not necessarily in a physical way.... although women need physical attention too) but don't be grabby and enjoy your time together talk, go for walks, get ice cream, take her to the movies, out for dinner, to the beach, and well shopping every once in awhile! Women will be receptive to these kinds of things and the gestures that come along with them! i promise you if you put the time in and the effort into making your woman have fun and tending to her needs and wants (obviously to a certain degree) then you will have fun as well! You will find that you enjoy each others company much more and you will discover you have a lot more in common than you think!! These are the little things i have referred to time and time again! If a woman sees that you show all the interest in the world for her then she will in you and that's were your love your relationship only grows stronger!!

Talk about everything fears, favorites, hates, likes, life and times!!! Everything you share with each other builds trust builds a bond that will be able to be unbreakable when hard times happen! and Cushion the blow when trying to work things out cuz it will be easier to understand each other but the more you share the more you trust the more you trust the more you love the happier you are and who knows maybe you have your own "Feature Film Love Story" in the making!!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

I Might Just Have To Call Your Bluff!!!

So as i promised to make it up to all my readers my blog for today is here! pretty late again i know but its been really busy as of late and a lot of stuff has been happening! My blog for tomorrow will also be coming out later at night too so please bare with me well until the following Monday from when i get back from my vacation! Anyways enough about me and he's today's blog!!

I've done comparisons before with guys to other things.... so i feel it would be ok to have another comparison for reference. You have probably guessed it from the title of tonight's blog i am relating how the "Typical" guy acts to a game of poker in a sense!

See the "Typical" Guy plays women like they were other poker players. To them its all a game and almost every move is a lie! Me for one am sick of guys being pigs and lying about sh**!!! Women need to know what is really going on!!

Since to these types of guys, love is a game, then they unfortunately feel the need to characterize women as the pieces. Face it ladies guys are born to be fairly decent if not potent liars on a regular basis!! However its what they use this ability for is what labels them "Nice" or not!!! Typical Guys are always looking at women and they find it hard (or don't even try to) look away. See this may not seem like a problem since it happens all the time but see that's the thing it happens all the time no matter what the situation is!! These guys can already have a girlfriend or even a wife and they still can't help themselves.... ladies you may call this just guys and how they are but really they are more likely to act on these things than you think! Then what do they do they lie about it later!!

Be keen Ladies!!! Listen and try and pick up on what the guy is saying or not saying (in worse cases) As guys we joke but behind every joke there is a little bit of truth!!

Once again I'm sorry for a short blog post and if it may not be as interesting as others that have come before it there's just been a lot of stuff happening lately and time restricts! I will get back on track hopefully by Sunday!! So until tomorrow Ladies and true Gentlemen be aware of the lie!! And don't fold after all..... Mr. Typical is only bluffing!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

P.S. Its late and i may add to this later tomorrow i will just post this now having it on time and it maybe become longer later.....when i can gather my thoughts better!! Thank you for the co operation!!

Be The Pacemaker To The Woman's Heart

So yes before everyone that was looking forward to reading my blog or went looking for it (well now yesterday) and didn't see it its because i had so very important things come up and they needed to be dealt with so yes i am now writing yesterdays blog today but i shall make up for it probably with another to follow today at some point during the day! So i am sorry to let my fellow readers and devoted followers down..... also well I'm on the topic of perhaps missing blogs on certain days..... i am going out of town for a few days next week so i will see what i can do about blogs then but no promises! However i will make up for them that's a promise!!!! Anyways onto the blog that was suppose to be yesterdays!!!

There was a comment question left by one of my usuals back a couple blog posts ago called "To Doubt Or not To Doubt That Is The Question!" the comment question asked: "Is there too slow even for the Nice Guy?" so i plan to answer this.....

I dunno if many of you have heard the old cliche "everything in moderation" before... but see i feel in a way this applies here to this question. But at the same time how can you tell if something is "slow" or "too slow"? If you really think about it the Nice guy takes everything in moderation and never tries to take too much of anything for granted especially the woman!!

Its not a matter of speed like i have mentioned in previous blogs.... its a matter of knowing the woman you are with! Every woman is different there is not a manual or instruction booklet that comes with them and its not one size fits all type of deal here! Every woman is so very unique in her own way and as the Nice guy it is your job to ask her things show general interest in her, talk to her understand and learn how and why she's feeling the things she feels! Like i said its not a matter of speed everything good in life takes time!

The relationship (a successful one that is) is all about setting a pace! Pace is key to what the woman wants and is comfortable with along with the guy!! Talk communicate find out what pace you and your partner want to work at!! Everyone likes different things and trusts each other on different levels so it comes down to the pace in which you wanna move forward together on mental, emotional and physical levels! Woman respect a man much more if he is willing to respect and pay attention to her needs!! Guys don't get me wrong here I'm not trying to put you in a position some would call "Whipped"!! That's not what is happening here!!! (I'm not saying woman don't abuse that right but that's a different topic for a different blog) Guys trust me here trust is everything and trust comes out in communication but also in setting a pace you are both secure with! You and your partner can always wish to increase the pace or "spice" things up but its easier to increase then it is to go in headstrong and try and decrease the pace because chances are the damage has already been done!!!

Sorry if this one came out shorter than normal hopefully i still answered everything good! Its been a long day with a whole lot of typing.... either way keep in mind everyone! Nice Guys don't have to be a dying breed !!!! Guys put the time in!! Set the proper pace!!! It will be worth your while!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

P.S. According to my blog post timing they still consider this thursdays blog so that a bonus but either way .... i'll still write another today some time since its like 1 am now !!

If Only There Was An Easy Button

Alright fellow readers this is my part 2 to my blog yesterday still in response to the email that my buddy Teen Theory and i got. This time there is a different scenario with a different person .... however I'm still going to approach this in general terms for all readers i hope this helps. After this i will be back to my normal blogging unless other emails come into my possession. I still encourage people who read my blog, to follow and comment if they wish and share their thoughts and ideas with me to give me ideas for future blogs. So anyways here is today's!

From the same email the second issue is what i am addressing today..... here it is: "My Friend likes this guy, who in which our other friend hates. He definitely isn't very smart, and for whatever other reason, she just really dislikes this kid. But aside from that, my friend has her heart set on him. He doesn't seem like a bad kid, just i don't want to see our tight friendship be jeopardized by some guy that probably won't last more than a few months, knowing my friend and peer pressure. She doesn't know what to do with our friend, and i want to give her some advice, but what?"

Alright so in a situation like this the first thing I'm going to tell you and everyone faced with this issue is you have to judge the people involved and weigh your opinions. First things first you shouldn't and really can't intervene on another persons love life.... that just causes havoc for everyone involved and as a good or close friend you should respect the boundaries. Here as a friend the best thing you can do is personally find out about the guy without being stalkerish or invading your friends privacy. Talk to your friend and see what he is like if you are that concerned about them! Only give opinions about them if you are asked for them! I know it is a difficult thing to sit back and watch a friend go through something hard or heartbreaking..... but in some situations you have to trust your friend would make the right decision about the guy!

The thing i would say is as a friend you are going to be there through thick and thin and always have their back.... however in some situations keep your distance and trust them to be independent and make their own decisions. The thing that concerns me here is whether or not this guy is a "Nice" guy because like i have said in previous blog posts they are hard to come by! Without being nosey point out to your friend what you notice about this guy and the things he does (and/or doesn't do) and especially how he reacts around other women. Ladies i will tell you time and time again beware of the "Typical" guys that disguise themselves as the "Nice" guy just to sweet talk their way into your pants!!! This is where as a friend you can make a difference! As a friend however don't apply too much noticeable pressure cuz this frightens most guys when he has a woman and her best friend watching him. Overall these things are a tricky event and no matter what the friend thinks it is up to the individual that wishes to do what they wanna do. Even if your friendship gets rocky during this time for whatever reason just make sure you are there... just in case she needs you again.

*** As a side note sometimes friends guy or girl that are close to you may have a problem with your guy or girl you are going after cuz they in fact might have a crush on them as well and they just will do anything or say anything to make your chances fail or make that person look bad so they can get them..... not all times but this has been known to happen (you gotta take all possibilities into consideration)***

As guys we are a dangerous breed and ladies like i have said before doubt us all until we prove otherwise there is no sense rushing into things only to find out you made the wrong choice!! There was never a problem with taking your time and deciding and learning the guy you wish to date or vice versa. The ones that feel like things are moving to slow for them or find they wanna pick up the pace are the most dangerous ones! Ladies if he is a guy of any worth then he will talk to you and wait and take things at the pace you wish to take it at. If you find a guy like that (providing he's not a jerk in any other way according to what you observe or what my blogs have said) then keep him cuz there's a good chance you found something rare! You may have found yourself a Nice Guy!!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

The Ex Has Already Ex-ited The Building!

So today my fellow readers there has been an email come into my possession that was asking not only my advice but also my fellow blogger Teen Theory's advice as well. Him and i have talked it over and we both will do our best to respond in our own unique blogging style. So after reading my blog check out his on this similar matter. However being that this email and its questions are in reference to two different issues we will address them in separate blogs of our own. Either way both of my blogs on this matter that i intend on doing are being advised as only my opinion and for those of you to whom this applies directly too you are welcome to take it or leave it. Everyone else reading this blog i want you to know that there will be no mention of these peoples names and i am describing what to do or how to go about this scenario the way i deem fit. Either way i hope it provides insight not only to whom it entails but also to whomever wishes to read this!! Hope everyone still enjoys it!!

So the issue that has been presented to me is as follows: "See my problem is, i like this guy a lot, he is a really good friend of mine, and i think he is starting to drop hints that he likes me. One issue, his best friend is also my ex. My ex and i don't see eye to eye, at all! Even when i try and come over to talk to this guy, we start to fight, and this guy always gets me away from it. So i don't want my ex getting in the way of us, and i don't know what to do."

See situations like this happen more commonly than people know and happens with every age group really in one way or another if its not the guy's its the girls best friend. See this is where the individual needs to evaluate everything they think and feel about the person they want to be with. The reason i say this is Guys are tight with their best friends and girls with theirs, you can't burst your way in expecting to change that.... all because your feelings are there, these things take time and well, planning and emotional commitment from both parties. They need to realize that the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend no longer has a right to give opinions or say things to the individual in terms of a love life beyond them.... regardless who it is with. Now see in this case in particular the woman is dealing with 2 guys that are best friends and well the woman is wishing to date or see where the relationship is going with her guy friend and the best friend, the ex is causing problems. This shouldn't happen but unfortunately it does. However this commenter has also stated that the guy she is trying to go with is a "Nice Guy" and that he tries his best to get her out of those situations. Therefore he is the one that needs to do most of the work here! Here's how....

See ex's can be a problem most of the time in anyway especially when this happens too! To my follow readers and everyone that wishes to find out how to deal with this you need to listen! Everything in this situation needs to be done as a team! The individual and the person they are wanting to be in a relationship with... in this case this woman and this guy (not the ex) need to have time alone just them (since they are close friends already this is why i say this is ok .... otherwise i would never tell a female to go with a guy they barely know alone anywhere) they need to sit down and talk about everything and where they see their relationship going and if they both wish for it to progress. At this point is where you truly find out whether he was dropping hints that he likes you in the first place. Like i have said before in previous blogs.... Communication is the key to developing and maintaining a relationship.... and if he in this case is already good friends with you then this should be even easier and not awkward!

After which they both come to a conclusion to date each other, then the one whose best friend is the ex (in this case the guy) needs to approach the ex, being a best friend, and have a talk with him! With this you will see first of all what his problem is! Second, not whether the ex needs to approve of it cuz its not for seeking of approval, but its for telling him "hey man we can still be good friends but i like this girl and that's how i feel!" and if he is a true friend then he will suck it up and deal with it!

Hopefully i was able to not only answer the questions asked but also help everyone that may be faced with this problem now or in the future! Remember Nice Guys are still around even others agree with me! Keep strong ladies!!! and Guys keep standing your ground Nice Guys don't finish last!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

P.S. I have developed and posted an email address for Mr. Nice Guy in my about me section in the sidebar! If there is any comments questions or concerns that you don't wish to share publicly just email that address.... and I'll see what i can do to help!

Who Could He Be Now??

Readers and loyal followers of my blog! I am back hopefully somewhat on schedule! It is Monday and my blog survived the weekend. I had no doubts in that at all. I was busy and had important things to do....therefore not that you are not important but i have time for everything. Anyways on to today's blog topic!

Ok in response to a comment on one of my previous posts "Hello I Heard You Were Looking For Mr. Right!" i dedicate today's blog to answering this: "Are ALL nice guys shy or is it a sudden burst of courage, or is it always the best friend; or could it not be just a random guy sitting across the room from the girl, one she has never met before?"

See like i have stated in my very first blog these are my overall opinions of what i observe day to day throughout years..... meaning i can't possibly know every aspect to every "Nice Guy" however i can share with you what i know in terms of about who the Nice Guy Is!

See not all nice guys are the shy type but typically they are the ones to fly under the radar if you know what i mean. Nice Guys typically go about their business without making a scene or having themselves be too noticed. Some guys thrive in crowds of people making them feel safe in terms of comfortable not being one on one with a female...... however some feel completely comfortable especially when trying to approach the female in which he desires (i use the word desire as in wanting to talk with and like ...not sexual desire).

See anyone of the guys can be shy depending on how approachable the woman is to them! If she seems intimidating then that makes it difficult for the shy ones to approach you! However there are the Nice Guys whether shy or not that have sudden bursts of courage that could last a couple minutes or for as long as they deem fit! Also though like i said in the previous blogs the nice guy could very well already be in your life (like the best friend)..... see this is where doubt not only comes into play when trying to weed out the "Typical" guy but also helps you see where your closest guy friends feelings truly lie.... whether in your hands of friendship or your passion of love.

Also the Nice Guy could very well be the guy the woman doesn't notice at all (and often times is) the guy sitting across the room. This Nice Guy notices the woman and instantly she has his attention at all times! From this point it could take the guy a matter of minutes to try his lady luck or it could take up to many years! It all depends on the amount or when his burst of courage comes.

The thing is ladies out there that are reading this.... its not just your job to look for the Nice Guy but its also not there job to find you!! Its a mutual thing for both of you to undertake! Love doesn't wait for anyone and second chances are even harder to come by then firsts so keep your eyes open and doubt all guys but don't be afraid to take chances on the ones that not only catch your eyes but your heart and that goes for both you Women and Nice Guys out there!!!

Because really the Nice Guy could be anyone of the guys out there ladies (All of the above) they may be hard to spot but they may also be easy it all depends on how hard you look or not look! And Nice Guys reading (or all guys wanting to be the "Nice Guy") its the same for you it is all how bad to you want it, and by it i mean belonging and love! Either way you have to notice them and more importantly allow them into your lives it takes more than just what you see...... in the end it comes down to what you feel!!! Trust in your mind first and let the heart fall into place!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy