Let The Good Times Roll!!!

So My fellow readers it is Sunday today and well i kinda missed a blog yesterday and for this i apologize, but for good reason i was out of town therefore away from my computer so i am sorry if i have let down any of my devoted followers and readers but things happen! Like my buddy Teen Theory said in his last blog time (link to his blog in the sidebar thinger) is short so you gotta enjoy it while you can and well that's what i did yesterday! But like i said on Fridays hopefully i get back around to making it right with you guys/girls by Sunday and well I'm here!!!!

So today's blog is about time in a way! See i have referred to relationships not being a race and especially not being a race against time either but like others believe and agree with time does move so fast and especially with the person you love most! So last time i may have talked about taking your time and good things come to those who wait and its truth! However getting yourself in that position is what takes the time and building the relationship may take time but believe me its worth it!! Its the maintaining, the enjoying part of the relationship is where you have the time of your life!

We may not all have the what i like to call "Feature Film Love Story" or the love stories you see in the movies but who's to say your individual relationship cannot be the best story you have ever see and/or told!!

So for all the guys out there Nice guys or Typical listen to this as i say it!! Be good to your women and they will be good to you! If you already have her then you have already done all the right things so don't stop now!!!!! Take her places the reason she likes to put on make up and dresses pretty is because she likes to be noticed... she likes to be seen!!! So take her places!! She's not a possession of yours remember however she will appreciate that you are proud and honored to be by her side and i am sure she feels the same for you too!!

Enjoy every moment with her (not necessarily in a physical way.... although women need physical attention too) but don't be grabby and enjoy your time together talk, go for walks, get ice cream, take her to the movies, out for dinner, to the beach, and well shopping every once in awhile! Women will be receptive to these kinds of things and the gestures that come along with them! i promise you if you put the time in and the effort into making your woman have fun and tending to her needs and wants (obviously to a certain degree) then you will have fun as well! You will find that you enjoy each others company much more and you will discover you have a lot more in common than you think!! These are the little things i have referred to time and time again! If a woman sees that you show all the interest in the world for her then she will in you and that's were your love your relationship only grows stronger!!

Talk about everything fears, favorites, hates, likes, life and times!!! Everything you share with each other builds trust builds a bond that will be able to be unbreakable when hard times happen! and Cushion the blow when trying to work things out cuz it will be easier to understand each other but the more you share the more you trust the more you trust the more you love the happier you are and who knows maybe you have your own "Feature Film Love Story" in the making!!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

I Might Just Have To Call Your Bluff!!!

So as i promised to make it up to all my readers my blog for today is here! pretty late again i know but its been really busy as of late and a lot of stuff has been happening! My blog for tomorrow will also be coming out later at night too so please bare with me well until the following Monday from when i get back from my vacation! Anyways enough about me and he's today's blog!!

I've done comparisons before with guys to other things.... so i feel it would be ok to have another comparison for reference. You have probably guessed it from the title of tonight's blog i am relating how the "Typical" guy acts to a game of poker in a sense!

See the "Typical" Guy plays women like they were other poker players. To them its all a game and almost every move is a lie! Me for one am sick of guys being pigs and lying about sh**!!! Women need to know what is really going on!!

Since to these types of guys, love is a game, then they unfortunately feel the need to characterize women as the pieces. Face it ladies guys are born to be fairly decent if not potent liars on a regular basis!! However its what they use this ability for is what labels them "Nice" or not!!! Typical Guys are always looking at women and they find it hard (or don't even try to) look away. See this may not seem like a problem since it happens all the time but see that's the thing it happens all the time no matter what the situation is!! These guys can already have a girlfriend or even a wife and they still can't help themselves.... ladies you may call this just guys and how they are but really they are more likely to act on these things than you think! Then what do they do they lie about it later!!

Be keen Ladies!!! Listen and try and pick up on what the guy is saying or not saying (in worse cases) As guys we joke but behind every joke there is a little bit of truth!!

Once again I'm sorry for a short blog post and if it may not be as interesting as others that have come before it there's just been a lot of stuff happening lately and time restricts! I will get back on track hopefully by Sunday!! So until tomorrow Ladies and true Gentlemen be aware of the lie!! And don't fold after all..... Mr. Typical is only bluffing!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

P.S. Its late and i may add to this later tomorrow i will just post this now having it on time and it maybe become longer later.....when i can gather my thoughts better!! Thank you for the co operation!!

Be The Pacemaker To The Woman's Heart

So yes before everyone that was looking forward to reading my blog or went looking for it (well now yesterday) and didn't see it its because i had so very important things come up and they needed to be dealt with so yes i am now writing yesterdays blog today but i shall make up for it probably with another to follow today at some point during the day! So i am sorry to let my fellow readers and devoted followers down..... also well I'm on the topic of perhaps missing blogs on certain days..... i am going out of town for a few days next week so i will see what i can do about blogs then but no promises! However i will make up for them that's a promise!!!! Anyways onto the blog that was suppose to be yesterdays!!!

There was a comment question left by one of my usuals back a couple blog posts ago called "To Doubt Or not To Doubt That Is The Question!" the comment question asked: "Is there too slow even for the Nice Guy?" so i plan to answer this.....

I dunno if many of you have heard the old cliche "everything in moderation" before... but see i feel in a way this applies here to this question. But at the same time how can you tell if something is "slow" or "too slow"? If you really think about it the Nice guy takes everything in moderation and never tries to take too much of anything for granted especially the woman!!

Its not a matter of speed like i have mentioned in previous blogs.... its a matter of knowing the woman you are with! Every woman is different there is not a manual or instruction booklet that comes with them and its not one size fits all type of deal here! Every woman is so very unique in her own way and as the Nice guy it is your job to ask her things show general interest in her, talk to her understand and learn how and why she's feeling the things she feels! Like i said its not a matter of speed everything good in life takes time!

The relationship (a successful one that is) is all about setting a pace! Pace is key to what the woman wants and is comfortable with along with the guy!! Talk communicate find out what pace you and your partner want to work at!! Everyone likes different things and trusts each other on different levels so it comes down to the pace in which you wanna move forward together on mental, emotional and physical levels! Woman respect a man much more if he is willing to respect and pay attention to her needs!! Guys don't get me wrong here I'm not trying to put you in a position some would call "Whipped"!! That's not what is happening here!!! (I'm not saying woman don't abuse that right but that's a different topic for a different blog) Guys trust me here trust is everything and trust comes out in communication but also in setting a pace you are both secure with! You and your partner can always wish to increase the pace or "spice" things up but its easier to increase then it is to go in headstrong and try and decrease the pace because chances are the damage has already been done!!!

Sorry if this one came out shorter than normal hopefully i still answered everything good! Its been a long day with a whole lot of typing.... either way keep in mind everyone! Nice Guys don't have to be a dying breed !!!! Guys put the time in!! Set the proper pace!!! It will be worth your while!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

P.S. According to my blog post timing they still consider this thursdays blog so that a bonus but either way .... i'll still write another today some time since its like 1 am now !!

If Only There Was An Easy Button

Alright fellow readers this is my part 2 to my blog yesterday still in response to the email that my buddy Teen Theory and i got. This time there is a different scenario with a different person .... however I'm still going to approach this in general terms for all readers i hope this helps. After this i will be back to my normal blogging unless other emails come into my possession. I still encourage people who read my blog, to follow and comment if they wish and share their thoughts and ideas with me to give me ideas for future blogs. So anyways here is today's!

From the same email the second issue is what i am addressing today..... here it is: "My Friend likes this guy, who in which our other friend hates. He definitely isn't very smart, and for whatever other reason, she just really dislikes this kid. But aside from that, my friend has her heart set on him. He doesn't seem like a bad kid, just i don't want to see our tight friendship be jeopardized by some guy that probably won't last more than a few months, knowing my friend and peer pressure. She doesn't know what to do with our friend, and i want to give her some advice, but what?"

Alright so in a situation like this the first thing I'm going to tell you and everyone faced with this issue is you have to judge the people involved and weigh your opinions. First things first you shouldn't and really can't intervene on another persons love life.... that just causes havoc for everyone involved and as a good or close friend you should respect the boundaries. Here as a friend the best thing you can do is personally find out about the guy without being stalkerish or invading your friends privacy. Talk to your friend and see what he is like if you are that concerned about them! Only give opinions about them if you are asked for them! I know it is a difficult thing to sit back and watch a friend go through something hard or heartbreaking..... but in some situations you have to trust your friend would make the right decision about the guy!

The thing i would say is as a friend you are going to be there through thick and thin and always have their back.... however in some situations keep your distance and trust them to be independent and make their own decisions. The thing that concerns me here is whether or not this guy is a "Nice" guy because like i have said in previous blog posts they are hard to come by! Without being nosey point out to your friend what you notice about this guy and the things he does (and/or doesn't do) and especially how he reacts around other women. Ladies i will tell you time and time again beware of the "Typical" guys that disguise themselves as the "Nice" guy just to sweet talk their way into your pants!!! This is where as a friend you can make a difference! As a friend however don't apply too much noticeable pressure cuz this frightens most guys when he has a woman and her best friend watching him. Overall these things are a tricky event and no matter what the friend thinks it is up to the individual that wishes to do what they wanna do. Even if your friendship gets rocky during this time for whatever reason just make sure you are there... just in case she needs you again.

*** As a side note sometimes friends guy or girl that are close to you may have a problem with your guy or girl you are going after cuz they in fact might have a crush on them as well and they just will do anything or say anything to make your chances fail or make that person look bad so they can get them..... not all times but this has been known to happen (you gotta take all possibilities into consideration)***

As guys we are a dangerous breed and ladies like i have said before doubt us all until we prove otherwise there is no sense rushing into things only to find out you made the wrong choice!! There was never a problem with taking your time and deciding and learning the guy you wish to date or vice versa. The ones that feel like things are moving to slow for them or find they wanna pick up the pace are the most dangerous ones! Ladies if he is a guy of any worth then he will talk to you and wait and take things at the pace you wish to take it at. If you find a guy like that (providing he's not a jerk in any other way according to what you observe or what my blogs have said) then keep him cuz there's a good chance you found something rare! You may have found yourself a Nice Guy!!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

The Ex Has Already Ex-ited The Building!

So today my fellow readers there has been an email come into my possession that was asking not only my advice but also my fellow blogger Teen Theory's advice as well. Him and i have talked it over and we both will do our best to respond in our own unique blogging style. So after reading my blog check out his on this similar matter. However being that this email and its questions are in reference to two different issues we will address them in separate blogs of our own. Either way both of my blogs on this matter that i intend on doing are being advised as only my opinion and for those of you to whom this applies directly too you are welcome to take it or leave it. Everyone else reading this blog i want you to know that there will be no mention of these peoples names and i am describing what to do or how to go about this scenario the way i deem fit. Either way i hope it provides insight not only to whom it entails but also to whomever wishes to read this!! Hope everyone still enjoys it!!

So the issue that has been presented to me is as follows: "See my problem is, i like this guy a lot, he is a really good friend of mine, and i think he is starting to drop hints that he likes me. One issue, his best friend is also my ex. My ex and i don't see eye to eye, at all! Even when i try and come over to talk to this guy, we start to fight, and this guy always gets me away from it. So i don't want my ex getting in the way of us, and i don't know what to do."

See situations like this happen more commonly than people know and happens with every age group really in one way or another if its not the guy's its the girls best friend. See this is where the individual needs to evaluate everything they think and feel about the person they want to be with. The reason i say this is Guys are tight with their best friends and girls with theirs, you can't burst your way in expecting to change that.... all because your feelings are there, these things take time and well, planning and emotional commitment from both parties. They need to realize that the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend no longer has a right to give opinions or say things to the individual in terms of a love life beyond them.... regardless who it is with. Now see in this case in particular the woman is dealing with 2 guys that are best friends and well the woman is wishing to date or see where the relationship is going with her guy friend and the best friend, the ex is causing problems. This shouldn't happen but unfortunately it does. However this commenter has also stated that the guy she is trying to go with is a "Nice Guy" and that he tries his best to get her out of those situations. Therefore he is the one that needs to do most of the work here! Here's how....

See ex's can be a problem most of the time in anyway especially when this happens too! To my follow readers and everyone that wishes to find out how to deal with this you need to listen! Everything in this situation needs to be done as a team! The individual and the person they are wanting to be in a relationship with... in this case this woman and this guy (not the ex) need to have time alone just them (since they are close friends already this is why i say this is ok .... otherwise i would never tell a female to go with a guy they barely know alone anywhere) they need to sit down and talk about everything and where they see their relationship going and if they both wish for it to progress. At this point is where you truly find out whether he was dropping hints that he likes you in the first place. Like i have said before in previous blogs.... Communication is the key to developing and maintaining a relationship.... and if he in this case is already good friends with you then this should be even easier and not awkward!

After which they both come to a conclusion to date each other, then the one whose best friend is the ex (in this case the guy) needs to approach the ex, being a best friend, and have a talk with him! With this you will see first of all what his problem is! Second, not whether the ex needs to approve of it cuz its not for seeking of approval, but its for telling him "hey man we can still be good friends but i like this girl and that's how i feel!" and if he is a true friend then he will suck it up and deal with it!

Hopefully i was able to not only answer the questions asked but also help everyone that may be faced with this problem now or in the future! Remember Nice Guys are still around even others agree with me! Keep strong ladies!!! and Guys keep standing your ground Nice Guys don't finish last!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

P.S. I have developed and posted an email address for Mr. Nice Guy in my about me section in the sidebar! If there is any comments questions or concerns that you don't wish to share publicly just email that address.... and I'll see what i can do to help!

Who Could He Be Now??

Readers and loyal followers of my blog! I am back hopefully somewhat on schedule! It is Monday and my blog survived the weekend. I had no doubts in that at all. I was busy and had important things to do....therefore not that you are not important but i have time for everything. Anyways on to today's blog topic!

Ok in response to a comment on one of my previous posts "Hello I Heard You Were Looking For Mr. Right!" i dedicate today's blog to answering this: "Are ALL nice guys shy or is it a sudden burst of courage, or is it always the best friend; or could it not be just a random guy sitting across the room from the girl, one she has never met before?"

See like i have stated in my very first blog these are my overall opinions of what i observe day to day throughout years..... meaning i can't possibly know every aspect to every "Nice Guy" however i can share with you what i know in terms of about who the Nice Guy Is!

See not all nice guys are the shy type but typically they are the ones to fly under the radar if you know what i mean. Nice Guys typically go about their business without making a scene or having themselves be too noticed. Some guys thrive in crowds of people making them feel safe in terms of comfortable not being one on one with a female...... however some feel completely comfortable especially when trying to approach the female in which he desires (i use the word desire as in wanting to talk with and like ...not sexual desire).

See anyone of the guys can be shy depending on how approachable the woman is to them! If she seems intimidating then that makes it difficult for the shy ones to approach you! However there are the Nice Guys whether shy or not that have sudden bursts of courage that could last a couple minutes or for as long as they deem fit! Also though like i said in the previous blogs the nice guy could very well already be in your life (like the best friend)..... see this is where doubt not only comes into play when trying to weed out the "Typical" guy but also helps you see where your closest guy friends feelings truly lie.... whether in your hands of friendship or your passion of love.

Also the Nice Guy could very well be the guy the woman doesn't notice at all (and often times is) the guy sitting across the room. This Nice Guy notices the woman and instantly she has his attention at all times! From this point it could take the guy a matter of minutes to try his lady luck or it could take up to many years! It all depends on the amount or when his burst of courage comes.

The thing is ladies out there that are reading this.... its not just your job to look for the Nice Guy but its also not there job to find you!! Its a mutual thing for both of you to undertake! Love doesn't wait for anyone and second chances are even harder to come by then firsts so keep your eyes open and doubt all guys but don't be afraid to take chances on the ones that not only catch your eyes but your heart and that goes for both you Women and Nice Guys out there!!!

Because really the Nice Guy could be anyone of the guys out there ladies (All of the above) they may be hard to spot but they may also be easy it all depends on how hard you look or not look! And Nice Guys reading (or all guys wanting to be the "Nice Guy") its the same for you it is all how bad to you want it, and by it i mean belonging and love! Either way you have to notice them and more importantly allow them into your lives it takes more than just what you see...... in the end it comes down to what you feel!!! Trust in your mind first and let the heart fall into place!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

To Doubt Or Not To Doubt That Is The Question!

Well Readers and devoted followers i had to make a blog today before the day expires now see did i figure it was gunna be this late .....yeah probably! But like my buddy Teen Theory (fellow blogger....link at the bottom of the page) wrote today we all procrastinate! So here i am "hauling A** when need be!" So here is today's blog!

Ok before i get too far ahead of myself with blogs and forget about some of my comments left on a previous posts i shall respond to them! On my blog "Diamond In The Rough" i had a comment from one of my usual who asked: "how the guy may move too fast with things such as physical commitment, etc. and how this may affect things?" Now see the answer to this question is a big one! So Lets begin! (I have a feeling i will be coming back to this in future blogs like i have already in other blogs)

See like i have said before a guy is a physical creature! And we are instantly drawn to the appearance of the female! However with most guys you can throw the concept of "Love at first sight!" out the window!!!! To them its more like "Oh Hot Damn!" They instantly turn all the attention to the females features and not necessarily the face and personality! Not saying all guys out there are like that cuz remember i still advocate the Nice Guy!!! I'm talking about the "Typical" Guys here! These guys are dangerous ladies! These are the guys that are on the hunt for new "meat" (mainly because they don't know what's coming to them!) and will sweet talk their way into your pants!! If you let them!!

See when a woman is with a guy they are naturally more "safe" or "trustful" of him mainly because he is the boyfriend!! Now see.... women have a natural ability to become emotionally attached to men easily because women are emotional creatures! (Trust me ladies not picking you apart this is a great quality to have and i wish more guys were like that honestly!!) However "Typical" Guys take advantage of these things and tend to use this trust and the notoriously miss used word "Love" to get the "Physical" out of you ladies!!! The main reason why guys move that fast with women is basically cuz the women let them! (That and Ego and Reputation to most guys is everything) Now see ladies reading this i don't want you all to start doubting every guy you come across in your travels but i caution you to be skeptical of them all until they prove themselves otherwise!!! Is this i fail proof method?? Well of course not!!! Cuz these guys are like bacteria and will find a way to adapt to your change in trust! However it can spare you a lot of heartache and emotional or physical scars from regrets to just doubt them and be skeptical!!!

You give them a kiss or let them kiss you then that's how it starts!! A kiss to a woman is an emotional things and to a Nice Guy a load off his shoulders of "do i or don't i" (yet still emotional for them too) However to the typical guy although may seem nice about it on the outside or the first couple times after that but on the inside he is thinking it is only a matter of time before he starts getting more!! Ladies you must notice this!!!! If you find yourself in a relationship that you feel maybe going fast or physically advancing too quick for your comfort try talking to him and wait to see how he responds!! If it doesn't seem to phase him very much and brushes it off get out of that situation!! Chances are he is the "Typical" guy (since they are a dime a dozen) and well you know what he is after!!!

Guys as guys we take everything too far all the time even the Nice Guys do it unfortunately!! (not necessarily the physical aspects... but others). If you got the Nice Guy however ladies they will listen to you and will be willing to work on those things and improve for you!!

I've said it before and I'll say it again Nice Guys are hard to come by!!!!! But we aren't dead yet!!! Keep faith ladies!!! Don't be afraid to doubt us men!!! It could save you a lot!! However don't be afraid to get close either!!! Talk, communicate with men the ones that listen are yours to keep!!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

P.S. Here's the link i promised! I'm not the one for promoting anyone/anything but this guy happens to be a "Nice Guy" and for that i respect him!!! Check him out!!!

http://anotherteentheory.blogspot.com/

"Hello I Heard You Were Looking For Mr. Right!"

Readers and fellows friends ..... today's blog since it is a Saturday of busy events will come earlier than my usual time. I have decided to spin this blog for today in direction towards my women readers and still allow the guys to follow along maybe as a note of things to do.....

So women today is a special day for you reading! Today i tell you the things to look for or how to notice a "Nice Guy" when you see him and how to tell the difference between him and the "Typical" guys! Enjoy!

Nice Guys are out there!!! You just have to notice them and yes i admit this can be a daunting task for you. This will take time ladies! There is lot of "losers" to sift through!!!

When searching for your "knight in shining armor" make sure that you notice the little things he does! Not all the time.... but the Nice Guys are usually very shy not in breaking the ice or talking to women..... they are shy in terms of making the move on women! They need to feel comfortable so you have to make them feel comfortable! Nice Guys or men in general tend to shy away from the intimidating women! Nice guys don't normally come forth in public that they are what we call "Different" then your typical guy! They have already had enough to deal with from the other testosterone meat heads of men that have teased them about women the last thing they need is a scene!

The Nice Guy will do little things here and there and will go the extra distance for the women that he cares about! He will often look to be your friend first and foremost! He will put the time in where other guys won't! The Nice Guy likes being in "The Friend Zone" because he not only feels as though he can trust the woman he is talking to but also feels as through the woman can trust him! Mutual Respect! and Guys if you noticed i used the word "talking"......... yes talking! Who ever thought that would be an important useful thing to do when developing a relationship!! Anyways back to what i was saying! Trust!!!

Trust is key to both man and woman! Communication allows this to happen! The Nice Guy will always be there to back the woman up and listen to her opinions, feelings and things she wants to talk about! Whether it may be in person or via technology of some kind. Women trust your close guy friends and bounce ideas off of them! They are the ones that are gunna be there for you when the going gets tough and you need a guys opinion or arms to run too! He will help you with other relationships that you may pursue but really on the inside he just wishes and waits for you to maybe notice him and the effort and time he puts in for you!!! A lot of times he is the one you least expect!! Nice guys will help any woman in need and will step up and defend you when you need it most even if he has to take the heat for it!

So when you are looking for "Mr. Right" ladies..... don't look too far!!! The best things you want in your life may already be in it!!! Sometimes staring you right on the face! The thing is he's not wearing a name tag! But there's no need for guessing who he is!! He's already your best friend!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

The Diamond In The Rough

Hello my loyal readers!! It is Friday and i have successfully done blogs for a week and have gotten a good following up to this point! So i thank you for reading and being interested in what i have to say!

Today's blog post is in response to a comment question from yesterday's blog "Women Put The Test Into Test-osterone". This devoted follower has asked questions before and i believe i have answered them the best i could. The comment yesterday was: "what kind of women are out there? is there a typical women? a bad one?" now see this is a different type of question and therefore will get a different type of response this time. Still going with my theme for my blog i shall answer this question in the terms of what the "Nice Guy" sees in women.... basically what he looks for. My blog is with the intent to tell about the Nice Guy and educate other guys to be the nice guy. Also to help women identify them or let them know not to give up hope cuz we still exist, so i don't plan on bashing women or labeling them as "bad". I hope this still offers some insight and makes for an interesting blog...... so without further a do! Here we go!

What the Nice Guy looks for in a woman is really hard to find. Not like its not there because every woman has that special something, its just the matter of finding the right one for you. Women are not like men they don't really have categories per say. The "Typical" guy has viewpoints in terms of what he calls the easier and the harder to get when it comes to women. But like all my other posts its about what the Nice Guy does and wants!

I use the saying "Diamond In The Rough" because quite simply that's what the Nice Guy lives to find. Every Nice Guy is different in what they want down to the detail.... however i can generalize (keep in mind only a generalization) what they would be looking for in their "Diamond".

Women give off signals to men. They send us vibes, they give looks our way, they move in a way that moves us as men. Now see the Nice Guy isn't looking for the next best thing..... he isn't looking for the most attractive girl...... or the most intelligent girl...... or the most athletic girl. All of these are great qualities in a woman and definitely play a part in compatibility. Did you hear me guys compatibility! The Nice Guy is looking first and foremost for a friend! For someone who is trustworthy and caring. Like i have referred too before its the personality that we look for in a woman. Something that makes a connection with our own. Something in the woman that motivates us to learn more about her! That compels us as Nice Guys to spend time getting to know her. We look for solid foundations in friendships to have the chance to build upon in the near future.

I must ask you how many times in movies have you seen the boy and girl character who have been friends for so long and know everything about each other end up together in the end? My guess is a lot or even a few at least! See you think Hollywood plays this up and creates a story like this and not base it on actual events. No see things like this actually happen and usually we as the Nice Guy or the woman fail to see what we have just right in front of us!

So really to answer this question ..... there isn't a typical women for a Nice Guy! There is however THE Woman! That Diamond! That if you wait long enough will show up! Shining right in front of your eyes! Its not the matter of there being a "Bad" woman ...... there is only a woman that is right for the Nice Guy! Or for any guy!

In the end the scales of justice play out and fate becomes reality! Guys whether they are the Typical or the Nice will get the women they deserve! And the women most importantly deserve the man they choose!

So both genders get your shovels ready and pickaxes if need be! Because diamonds are below the surface and you can only get there by digging!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

Women Put The Test Into Test-osterone

My fellow readers and followers of my blog i am now my 5th post into blogging and feel that i cannot go any further until i lay down some more ground work..... what i mean by this is... i can talk about the Nice Guy and how it is becoming a non existent thing in today's society but i haven't really explain as to why this may be happening??? So today i feel compelled to answer this! See i was left thinking about this after one of my devoted followers left a comment on my previous blog "Did Chivalry Die With The Middle Ages??" her comment was: "This seems to be dying as not many men feel the need to do these sweet acts of kindness for their lady. Why is this i wonder?" So i plan to answer this and accent on why the Nice Guy seems to being a dying breed!!

Alright so before anyone jumps to conclusions about the title to my blog today let me explain my reasoning. The reason in which i titled it this is because in order to be the Nice Guy both men and women must understand what this means and how we as men are put to the test. So here we go.....

Men are.... a physical creature and well we can't really help that....right?? Or can we??? See this is where the defined line between "Typical" guys and "Nice" guys is drawn. Being a guy i know and well all other guys know we are empirical by nature! We need to experience things with our senses! And well its undeniable to say that guys use or in terms "abuse" or "misuse" their sense of sight! (and well later touch) The visual is what most men hang their hats on when it comes to women! Even ladies know this right! However shallow most guys seem there are still some of us that dig a little deeper ...or well a lot deeper in some situations! All guys observe and we can't deny that! But see this where the real test comes into play! Guys tend to not do chivalrous acts because they feel that this gets them no where and really in a perverse way (like most men think.... but remember not all) don't show them any physical "action" or response worth anything. But they miss the picture altogether! Lets break it down here shall we?

The Typical Guy

See the typical guys are either attracted to what they see in a woman or is repelled by something that is in the women's features. They are like all of us at first... looking at the physical features but most often times that is the extent of there looking! They tend to not be interested as much in the overall personality that the woman possesses, and truly this is a shame! These types of guys i do not hold in very high respect for at all! And if you as a guy fall into this category well then I'm sorry to say you need to start growing up! Cuz you are failing the test! Women don't want just another guy like all the rest that see them and instantly start trying to be "smooth" (which are most times not smooth at all). Girls don't want a sad attempt at being "picked up" they want to be acknowledged for something more!! Emotional connection is just as or even more valuable then a physical one!! Learn it!! And it will save yourselves not only a lot of time in several rejections but also to have the satisfaction of being able talk and show love and compassion without necessarily being so physical! Women respect this!

The Nice Guy

See the nice guys are not different in the sense of observing and being attracted to the visual aspects of women that please them. However, where they are different is what they do with that afterwards! See the nice guys go towards the situations with a different approach and this is where things like the "lost" art of chivalry comes into play! Simple "little things" (Ahhhh yes here they come into play yet again!!) do wonders in not only breaking the ice but getting to know the woman's likes and dislikes. This information is what is truly valuable!

Guys who you are is ultimately your decision.... but keep in mind there is a reason why the famous saying is "Good things come to those who wait". Truthfully women know what women want but really do us men know? Well most of us anyways?..... Probably not! Or just wish to avoid it. Guys, if there is anything i can tell you is learn your women!!! Not their bodies and how they work..... cuz really we all know how that works! (Hopefully an accurate generalization) I mean their minds!!! Women test us every day! Not only in our intelligence but also in our self control and emotional depth! Think deeper than what's just underneath their clothes my fellow masculine friends! Its all a test and its scary if you really think and apply a little effort how well your results (Not Sexual Results) might just turn out!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

Did Chivalry Die With The Middle Ages???

Readers and/or devoted Followers of my blog..... it has come to my attention through years of observing others in relationships (along with some things i have seen recently as well) that i can draw one main conclusion ..... this conclusion is that Chivalry in modern society is dying or has already died! It has been executed with precision it might seem.... off to the guillotine with no trial of explanation at all!!!

For the ladies out there that are in a relationship or are planning to be anytime soon.... if you don't know what Chivalry means its not a hit at your intelligence at all it's a hit against your boyfriend or guy in your life. For those guys that don't know what this word means, well then that's because there is a good chance you don't act that way (not in all cases but most).

To be Chivalrous is do the little things for your woman! Trust me guys if you wanna be the Nice Guy and get a girl to like you or at least notice you..... do the little things!!! These things, however little or insignificant they may seem to you.... can make the world of a difference to your female counterpart. Whether you believe it or not, girls love to be noticed, but also wait for the guys that give them that extra bit of attention. The one on one closer attention. Here's what i mean:

1) One of the easiest most simple acts of chivalry a guy can do to get into a girl's good books is opening and/or holding the door open for them. You casually do it for strangers so why not take the extra second and effort to step ahead of the girl to open the door for her! We all know she is quite capable of doing this herself but my logic is "it doesn't mean she has too". Guys step up and hold doors not even just doors at school, work, and stores, but also the car door!! These are the things that she may not even be expecting and therefore gives you the gratification of seeing the look on her face as she smiles in approval at you and your good deed.

2) Again another easy simplistic way to become the bright spot in her day. If there is inclement weather outside and she is forced to go out into this be a Nice Guy and step up!! Offer her your jacket, whether it may be raining, snowing or just because you noticed that she was cold. This my fellow men goes along way in the lady world! Girls love wearing either the guys jacket or sweater and most times are waiting for you the guy to offer it up.

3) Take the lady out for a night on the town. Pay her way on everything from supper to transportation, to and from wherever it is you may be going. Girls i admit not always like the guy paying for everything all the time.... but until she says something about it go ahead and do it! She always appreciates it!!

4) Offer every now and again to cook her supper or make her a delectable dessert. She will emotionally applaud your efforts. She will like that you as a guy are willing to take care of her and offer to take some stress off of her shoulders... this is where she can relax and enjoy the food you make for her. Women have more stress then us guys think they do. This little act of kindness definitely is looked at as "sweet" in the girls mind and definitely scores you big points!

Follow these things and others that you may have picked up along the way in life and you are well on the way to a women's heart without even having to do all that much!! Just the little things make the difference!!! Step up and don't let Chivalry become a lost practice!! We as men have so much to learn! Being the Nice Guy really isn't a hard thing to do!! Sometimes when it comes to women.... us men (because we are men) need all the help we can get!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

Not Another Notch On Your Belts!!

This post is in response to a comment of my previous blog post from yesterday titled "May The Nice Guy Please Stand Up!"...... it was asked by one of my devoted followers and readers: "Mr. Nice Guy!! Please enlighten us women on why people say that nice guys finish last? Cuz they don't they're first!!" So i plan to answer this question and well incorporate other opinions i have that relate to this....... So lets get started!

Now see the origin of this statement "Nice Guys Finish Last" was by a guy by the name of Leo Durocher who was a US baseball manager during the early to late 1900s anyways his quote: "Nice Guys finish seventh" was reworded several times and now in modern day is blown out of proportion and is accepted as common thought. Which really it shouldn't be at all!!!

So anyways there was your brief history lesson on that. Now to answer the question and enlighten readers that follow my blog this is what i think on the matter! There has been a common miss conception that nice guys (that are few and far between nowadays....however still exist) finish last! This in my opinion and i believe that this statement is completely untrue!!!! Nice Guys to me are like the story about the Tortoise and the Hare. We all know this story. So lets use this analogy! See the "Bad" Guy (for lack of better words) is the Hare in this story. He is an individual that thinks he knows the outcome based on the competition he is faced with the Tortoise (i.e the Nice Guy). The Hare believes that he will win the race because he is far faster and more "equipped" (so he thinks) then the "lower" Tortoise. When in actuality the Tortoise (Nice Guy) ends up being more equipped and wins this race. Hopefully here you see my connection!!

The Hare like most men is cocky, conceited and very egotistical. Every guy has a competitive edge don't get me wrong even i do! But to the Hare (Typical Men) the ego takes this way too far!! Applying this to the view and world of women that guys in general, focus everything around.... this relates to many things!!

First like the Hare, typical men think speed is a virtue in a relationship and they think its all about "how far did you get with her man?" Come on guys don't treat women like "Another Notch On Your Belt"!!!! Now see this is completely wrong!!!! Yes you heard me...... Wrong!!! Speed is not a virtue in a relationship and they take time to build, develop and maintain. That's right Fellas you heard me!! Girls need time and space! Girls need to be comforted and listened too! They need to build trust in the guy they are with or planning to be with! A relationship is not a covert-ops mission, where you get in get out! The true reward is to be loved and cared for and have a safe place to belong. Guys need this too!!! Yes i said it!!! Guys need to be comforted and loved and cared for too!!! Which brings me back to my previous blog post.... guys have feelings and emotions too!!! They aren't something only girls possess you know! When you act like the Hare, or grow up with the "Fonzy" mentality hitting on girls and having one night stands, you not only disrespect women and their bodies but you also strip away your dignity as well!

Second you can't discount the Tortoise! The Nice Guy is really what most women look for! Not the preconceived "Bad Boy". Although the "Bad Boy" may have the stud look or the bad a** take no sh** from anybody attitude.... they are bad news ladies! I suggest to keep your distance or at least know what you are getting into! Good chances if he has a bad a** attitude with everybody it is everybody!!! Including women!!! The nice guy is always willing to take things slowly.... not at a snails pace but at a pace that is comfortable for both him and the girl.

Besides women talk everybody knows that and if you didn't well sadly i must inform you arrogant men out there they do and they know about you before you even try anything. Unfortunately however in order for that to happen one girl or several have to have the bad experience to warn the others so this is where i hope i can make a difference!!!

All in all Nice Guys Don't Finish Last!!!! Cuz love or relationships aren't a race! They are a journey! and hopefully you take your time and see all the great things they have to offer!!!

My apologizes this blog turned out quite long but hopefully informative and well i hope i answered the question i set out to answer!

Until i post again..... Ladies keep faith and men its never too late to be the Nice Guy!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

May The Nice Guy Please Stand Up!!!

Alright so..... this one is a heavy hitter and i know its right off the bat but hey go big or go home right! Had to get the ball rolling somehow! So first off i would like to say before i get into my strong opinion on this topic that this is a very large topic and i will probably be coming back to this one now and again..... with that in mind here we go!

Today's topic is about some things a lot of guys do or take for granted i would say far too often! That being careless or heartless in many aspects! I would like to get one thing straight before any serious opinions come out. When did women become objects to men? When did we start looking at them as possessions and/or meat? To be chewed up and spit out? When at all did that even become remotely fair and justifiable? Men out there that do this (and the ones that don't realize are even more at fault) you should all be ashamed of yourselves!!!! Sometimes I'm disgusted in how some of us guys are like that!! What happened to the word "love"???? To guys is this just a loose term now?? Is this just just a word that can be thrown around to make a girl melt just so you can get in her pants???

So this is my opinion... sorry about all the questions i just had to get ya thinking! I seriously think that guys are losing the control. We as a species whatever you wanna call us we are turning into animals. What is suppose to separate humans from animals? Feelings and Emotions!!! Every human being has them! That's right fellas! We too have Feelings and Emotions! Now see for all of you that look bad or down on guys that claim to have feelings and emotions that care (cuz there are some of us) all those who say that crying and pain and heartbreak and loss and most importantly love is for sissies! You have to give your heads a shake!!!!! What you are doing to these women out there... what you are saying to them and doing to them without manning up and taking responsibility or feeling even a shred of compassion is wrong and truthfully is SISSY!!!!! Grow Up !!!! Grow Some Balls!!!! and use them to benefit not only yourselves!!!

That's all for tonight bloggers!! Don't worry i will be coming back to this one!!! Ladies i got your back and all the nice guys should follow my lead! Oh Ya and one more thing about that!!!!

Where are all the good old fashion guys at!!!??? Stand up my men !!! Stand up!!! because I'm telling you NICE GUYS DON"T FINISH LAST!!!!!!!

I'm living proof!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

The Starting Point

So today marks the day i start my blogs on the Internet. I was never one to write about my life so that's not what I'm about to start doing..... instead this is an information source for guys everywhere.... (and of course the ladies that wish to read these blogs) an information source to tell people that there are still nice guys out there!!! (not me I'm taken) but there are still some of us survivors.... however we are a dying breed! (hence the title) but ladies keep faith and have hope! With this i plan to keep you edgu-tained about various things that come across my path that i plan to share and comment on.....

I feel the need to write this because I'm sick of watching (pardon my word choice) "jerk" guys out there getting away with things..... that has to be my biggest issue with the world today! Mind you before anybody starts going off being a hater or saying "this guy just hates other guys" or "this guy doesn't know what he's talking about" just keep in mind before that happens i would just like to say that i don't know everything there is to know about people and relationships, but i have been around a lot in my lifetime already to make my opinions on certain matters involving the heart and the keys to unlock it! But yet again these aren't scripture or taken from some book or me being a hater on anyone..... this is just my opinion on how the "Nice Guy" is becoming a lost art form if you will.

So if you are willing to read, listen and follow what i would like to say in my coming blogs then i thank you and by all means do so!! Even if its just for a laugh.....

If you have any comments at all or anything you would like me to put in my blogs relating to "The Nice Guy" then feel free to leave them and i will try and incorporate it somehow into my writing.

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy