The Ex Has Already Ex-ited The Building!

So today my fellow readers there has been an email come into my possession that was asking not only my advice but also my fellow blogger Teen Theory's advice as well. Him and i have talked it over and we both will do our best to respond in our own unique blogging style. So after reading my blog check out his on this similar matter. However being that this email and its questions are in reference to two different issues we will address them in separate blogs of our own. Either way both of my blogs on this matter that i intend on doing are being advised as only my opinion and for those of you to whom this applies directly too you are welcome to take it or leave it. Everyone else reading this blog i want you to know that there will be no mention of these peoples names and i am describing what to do or how to go about this scenario the way i deem fit. Either way i hope it provides insight not only to whom it entails but also to whomever wishes to read this!! Hope everyone still enjoys it!!

So the issue that has been presented to me is as follows: "See my problem is, i like this guy a lot, he is a really good friend of mine, and i think he is starting to drop hints that he likes me. One issue, his best friend is also my ex. My ex and i don't see eye to eye, at all! Even when i try and come over to talk to this guy, we start to fight, and this guy always gets me away from it. So i don't want my ex getting in the way of us, and i don't know what to do."

See situations like this happen more commonly than people know and happens with every age group really in one way or another if its not the guy's its the girls best friend. See this is where the individual needs to evaluate everything they think and feel about the person they want to be with. The reason i say this is Guys are tight with their best friends and girls with theirs, you can't burst your way in expecting to change that.... all because your feelings are there, these things take time and well, planning and emotional commitment from both parties. They need to realize that the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend no longer has a right to give opinions or say things to the individual in terms of a love life beyond them.... regardless who it is with. Now see in this case in particular the woman is dealing with 2 guys that are best friends and well the woman is wishing to date or see where the relationship is going with her guy friend and the best friend, the ex is causing problems. This shouldn't happen but unfortunately it does. However this commenter has also stated that the guy she is trying to go with is a "Nice Guy" and that he tries his best to get her out of those situations. Therefore he is the one that needs to do most of the work here! Here's how....

See ex's can be a problem most of the time in anyway especially when this happens too! To my follow readers and everyone that wishes to find out how to deal with this you need to listen! Everything in this situation needs to be done as a team! The individual and the person they are wanting to be in a relationship with... in this case this woman and this guy (not the ex) need to have time alone just them (since they are close friends already this is why i say this is ok .... otherwise i would never tell a female to go with a guy they barely know alone anywhere) they need to sit down and talk about everything and where they see their relationship going and if they both wish for it to progress. At this point is where you truly find out whether he was dropping hints that he likes you in the first place. Like i have said before in previous blogs.... Communication is the key to developing and maintaining a relationship.... and if he in this case is already good friends with you then this should be even easier and not awkward!

After which they both come to a conclusion to date each other, then the one whose best friend is the ex (in this case the guy) needs to approach the ex, being a best friend, and have a talk with him! With this you will see first of all what his problem is! Second, not whether the ex needs to approve of it cuz its not for seeking of approval, but its for telling him "hey man we can still be good friends but i like this girl and that's how i feel!" and if he is a true friend then he will suck it up and deal with it!

Hopefully i was able to not only answer the questions asked but also help everyone that may be faced with this problem now or in the future! Remember Nice Guys are still around even others agree with me! Keep strong ladies!!! and Guys keep standing your ground Nice Guys don't finish last!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy

P.S. I have developed and posted an email address for Mr. Nice Guy in my about me section in the sidebar! If there is any comments questions or concerns that you don't wish to share publicly just email that address.... and I'll see what i can do to help!