For the ladies out there that are in a relationship or are planning to be anytime soon.... if you don't know what Chivalry means its not a hit at your intelligence at all it's a hit against your boyfriend or guy in your life. For those guys that don't know what this word means, well then that's because there is a good chance you don't act that way (not in all cases but most).
To be Chivalrous is do the little things for your woman! Trust me guys if you wanna be the Nice Guy and get a girl to like you or at least notice you..... do the little things!!! These things, however little or insignificant they may seem to you.... can make the world of a difference to your female counterpart. Whether you believe it or not, girls love to be noticed, but also wait for the guys that give them that extra bit of attention. The one on one closer attention. Here's what i mean:
1) One of the easiest most simple acts of chivalry a guy can do to get into a girl's good books is opening and/or holding the door open for them. You casually do it for strangers so why not take the extra second and effort to step ahead of the girl to open the door for her! We all know she is quite capable of doing this herself but my logic is "it doesn't mean she has too". Guys step up and hold doors not even just doors at school, work, and stores, but also the car door!! These are the things that she may not even be expecting and therefore gives you the gratification of seeing the look on her face as she smiles in approval at you and your good deed.
2) Again another easy simplistic way to become the bright spot in her day. If there is inclement weather outside and she is forced to go out into this be a Nice Guy and step up!! Offer her your jacket, whether it may be raining, snowing or just because you noticed that she was cold. This my fellow men goes along way in the lady world! Girls love wearing either the guys jacket or sweater and most times are waiting for you the guy to offer it up.
3) Take the lady out for a night on the town. Pay her way on everything from supper to transportation, to and from wherever it is you may be going. Girls i admit not always like the guy paying for everything all the time.... but until she says something about it go ahead and do it! She always appreciates it!!
4) Offer every now and again to cook her supper or make her a delectable dessert. She will emotionally applaud your efforts. She will like that you as a guy are willing to take care of her and offer to take some stress off of her shoulders... this is where she can relax and enjoy the food you make for her. Women have more stress then us guys think they do. This little act of kindness definitely is looked at as "sweet" in the girls mind and definitely scores you big points!
Follow these things and others that you may have picked up along the way in life and you are well on the way to a women's heart without even having to do all that much!! Just the little things make the difference!!! Step up and don't let Chivalry become a lost practice!! We as men have so much to learn! Being the Nice Guy really isn't a hard thing to do!! Sometimes when it comes to women.... us men (because we are men) need all the help we can get!
Sincerely,
Mr. Nice Guy
mr nice guy!!
ReplyDeleteI agree in all totality. This seems to be dying as not many men feel the need to do these sweet acts of kindness for their lady. Why is this i wonder?
There's only one issue with the concept of chivalry that you are discussing. I really like your blog and appreciate what you're doing for us women, but the whole idea of chivalry being awesome in the middle ages is completely false. One of the reasons chivalry existed is because they believed that high born women could not do anything for themselves. As for the paying thing, you are correct however the man should not be expected to pay for everything. That mentality came out of the fact that traditionally men brang home the bacon and the woman cooked it. The woman should be expected to chip in at least a little bit, like she covers the movie if you cover dinner, etc. Chivarly is a good idea to being a nice guy, but don't get carried away with old fashioned ideals that need to change.
ReplyDeleteThank You for commenting Rachel i like seeing that i am reaching people with what i write. i have read what you wrote and i understand and agree with you completely! However with the idea of what i was getting at with the "middle ages" (trust me i love history) was just in the title i'm trying to add a little humor or cleverness to my titles. But like i said i agree with everything you wrote there and yes Chivalry is a good idea to being a nice guy but of course one cannot get too carrying away.... everything in moderation.
ReplyDeleteOnce again thank you for posting a comment and reading my blogs! I hope you enjoy my others as i post them and have comments or questions to ask in others to come.
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