If Only There Was An Easy Button

Alright fellow readers this is my part 2 to my blog yesterday still in response to the email that my buddy Teen Theory and i got. This time there is a different scenario with a different person .... however I'm still going to approach this in general terms for all readers i hope this helps. After this i will be back to my normal blogging unless other emails come into my possession. I still encourage people who read my blog, to follow and comment if they wish and share their thoughts and ideas with me to give me ideas for future blogs. So anyways here is today's!

From the same email the second issue is what i am addressing today..... here it is: "My Friend likes this guy, who in which our other friend hates. He definitely isn't very smart, and for whatever other reason, she just really dislikes this kid. But aside from that, my friend has her heart set on him. He doesn't seem like a bad kid, just i don't want to see our tight friendship be jeopardized by some guy that probably won't last more than a few months, knowing my friend and peer pressure. She doesn't know what to do with our friend, and i want to give her some advice, but what?"

Alright so in a situation like this the first thing I'm going to tell you and everyone faced with this issue is you have to judge the people involved and weigh your opinions. First things first you shouldn't and really can't intervene on another persons love life.... that just causes havoc for everyone involved and as a good or close friend you should respect the boundaries. Here as a friend the best thing you can do is personally find out about the guy without being stalkerish or invading your friends privacy. Talk to your friend and see what he is like if you are that concerned about them! Only give opinions about them if you are asked for them! I know it is a difficult thing to sit back and watch a friend go through something hard or heartbreaking..... but in some situations you have to trust your friend would make the right decision about the guy!

The thing i would say is as a friend you are going to be there through thick and thin and always have their back.... however in some situations keep your distance and trust them to be independent and make their own decisions. The thing that concerns me here is whether or not this guy is a "Nice" guy because like i have said in previous blog posts they are hard to come by! Without being nosey point out to your friend what you notice about this guy and the things he does (and/or doesn't do) and especially how he reacts around other women. Ladies i will tell you time and time again beware of the "Typical" guys that disguise themselves as the "Nice" guy just to sweet talk their way into your pants!!! This is where as a friend you can make a difference! As a friend however don't apply too much noticeable pressure cuz this frightens most guys when he has a woman and her best friend watching him. Overall these things are a tricky event and no matter what the friend thinks it is up to the individual that wishes to do what they wanna do. Even if your friendship gets rocky during this time for whatever reason just make sure you are there... just in case she needs you again.

*** As a side note sometimes friends guy or girl that are close to you may have a problem with your guy or girl you are going after cuz they in fact might have a crush on them as well and they just will do anything or say anything to make your chances fail or make that person look bad so they can get them..... not all times but this has been known to happen (you gotta take all possibilities into consideration)***

As guys we are a dangerous breed and ladies like i have said before doubt us all until we prove otherwise there is no sense rushing into things only to find out you made the wrong choice!! There was never a problem with taking your time and deciding and learning the guy you wish to date or vice versa. The ones that feel like things are moving to slow for them or find they wanna pick up the pace are the most dangerous ones! Ladies if he is a guy of any worth then he will talk to you and wait and take things at the pace you wish to take it at. If you find a guy like that (providing he's not a jerk in any other way according to what you observe or what my blogs have said) then keep him cuz there's a good chance you found something rare! You may have found yourself a Nice Guy!!!!

Sincerely,

Mr. Nice Guy