Now see the origin of this statement "Nice Guys Finish Last" was by a guy by the name of Leo Durocher who was a US baseball manager during the early to late 1900s anyways his quote: "Nice Guys finish seventh" was reworded several times and now in modern day is blown out of proportion and is accepted as common thought. Which really it shouldn't be at all!!!
So anyways there was your brief history lesson on that. Now to answer the question and enlighten readers that follow my blog this is what i think on the matter! There has been a common miss conception that nice guys (that are few and far between nowadays....however still exist) finish last! This in my opinion and i believe that this statement is completely untrue!!!! Nice Guys to me are like the story about the Tortoise and the Hare. We all know this story. So lets use this analogy! See the "Bad" Guy (for lack of better words) is the Hare in this story. He is an individual that thinks he knows the outcome based on the competition he is faced with the Tortoise (i.e the Nice Guy). The Hare believes that he will win the race because he is far faster and more "equipped" (so he thinks) then the "lower" Tortoise. When in actuality the Tortoise (Nice Guy) ends up being more equipped and wins this race. Hopefully here you see my connection!!
The Hare like most men is cocky, conceited and very egotistical. Every guy has a competitive edge don't get me wrong even i do! But to the Hare (Typical Men) the ego takes this way too far!! Applying this to the view and world of women that guys in general, focus everything around.... this relates to many things!!
First like the Hare, typical men think speed is a virtue in a relationship and they think its all about "how far did you get with her man?" Come on guys don't treat women like "Another Notch On Your Belt"!!!! Now see this is completely wrong!!!! Yes you heard me...... Wrong!!! Speed is not a virtue in a relationship and they take time to build, develop and maintain. That's right Fellas you heard me!! Girls need time and space! Girls need to be comforted and listened too! They need to build trust in the guy they are with or planning to be with! A relationship is not a covert-ops mission, where you get in get out! The true reward is to be loved and cared for and have a safe place to belong. Guys need this too!!! Yes i said it!!! Guys need to be comforted and loved and cared for too!!! Which brings me back to my previous blog post.... guys have feelings and emotions too!!! They aren't something only girls possess you know! When you act like the Hare, or grow up with the "Fonzy" mentality hitting on girls and having one night stands, you not only disrespect women and their bodies but you also strip away your dignity as well!
Second you can't discount the Tortoise! The Nice Guy is really what most women look for! Not the preconceived "Bad Boy". Although the "Bad Boy" may have the stud look or the bad a** take no sh** from anybody attitude.... they are bad news ladies! I suggest to keep your distance or at least know what you are getting into! Good chances if he has a bad a** attitude with everybody it is everybody!!! Including women!!! The nice guy is always willing to take things slowly.... not at a snails pace but at a pace that is comfortable for both him and the girl.
Besides women talk everybody knows that and if you didn't well sadly i must inform you arrogant men out there they do and they know about you before you even try anything. Unfortunately however in order for that to happen one girl or several have to have the bad experience to warn the others so this is where i hope i can make a difference!!!
All in all Nice Guys Don't Finish Last!!!! Cuz love or relationships aren't a race! They are a journey! and hopefully you take your time and see all the great things they have to offer!!!
My apologizes this blog turned out quite long but hopefully informative and well i hope i answered the question i set out to answer!
Until i post again..... Ladies keep faith and men its never too late to be the Nice Guy!!!
Sincerely,
Mr. Nice Guy
Props bro, you really put a new meaning to doing a 100 in a 55, sometimes you gotta slow down and look around at what you got
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